Choosing Marriage

Any married person will tell you: there’s a huge difference between the expectations of marriage, and the reality of what marriage is actually like.

For so many couples the struggle is real as the “reality check” of marriage begins to unfold with each passing year. But while marriage may be hard, a healthy marriage doesn’t stop there.

Because by learning to journey through the hard things, you get the opportunity to experience the great things on the other side.

With a candid yet compassionate approach, licensed counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta, walks you through eight significant choices involved in taking marriage from hard to great.

Throughout each chapter, Debra shares astonishing survey results from thousands of singles and married couples, revealing intimate details about things like love, sex, conflict, communication, and attraction.

From her experience as a professional counselor and wife, Debra believes that a beautiful exchange occurs when spouses learn what it means to choose we before me.

Discover practical steps you can take on the hard-but-great journey of choosing marriage. Single or married, Choosing Marriage is a book for you!


“Choosing Marriage is a must-read for anyone who is hoping to marry someday AND for those who want to improve their marriage. In the book, Fileta masterfully addresses what it takes to cultivate and keep a thriving marriage through real life stories, practical tips, Biblical scripture, and probing questions. She gives both married and single people hope that they, too, can foster an amazing, lifelong marriage with the one they love.”

Dave and Ashley Willis

Debra Fileta writes with passion and heart in this compelling book. She shows all of us how to overcome the inevitable challenges of married life by making the right choices. In short, Debra reveals how choosing marriage, every day, leads to deep and abiding lifelong love. Whether you are single, engaged or married, you don’t want to miss out on this profound and practical message.

Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

New York Times bestselling authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

Whether you’re a happy couple, in need of help, or a single looking ahead, Choosing Marriage is a tour de force for anyone seeking to achieve a great marriage. My team and I see a lot of great marriage books – and this is one of the best we’ve ever read. You’ll quickly find practical, achievable suggestions, humor, and road-tested insight from years of working marriage therapy…This is a must-read!

Shaunti Feldhahn

social researcher and best-selling author of For Women Only and The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages