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Abuse

Books

• “On the Threshold of Hope: Opening the Door to Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse” by Diane Langberg
• “Restoring the Shattered Self: A Christian Counselor’s Guide to Complex Trauma” by Heather Davediuk Gingrich
• “The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma” by Bessel van der Kolk
• “The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole (Healing Complex PTSD)” by Arielle Schwartz
• “The Wounded Heart: Hope for Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse” by Dan B. Allender
• “The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope” by Leslie Vernick 
• “When Loving Him is Hurting You: Hope and Help for Women Dealing with Narcissism and Emotional Abuse” by David Hawkins

Podcasts

• The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast by Adam Young 

Addictions

Books

• “Addiction and Grace: Exploring the Psychology of Addiction, the Power of Spirituality, and the Path to Freedom Through Contemplative Practices” by Gerald May
• “Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction” by Mark Laaser
• “Life Without Ed, Tenth Anniversary Edition DIGITAL AUDIO: How One Woman Declared Independence from Her Eating Disorder and How You Can Too” Jenni Schaefer
• “Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction” by Patrick Carnes 
• “The Quick-Reference Guide to Addictions and Recovery Counseling: 40 Topics, Spiritual Insights, and Easy-to-Use Action Steps” by Tim Clinton and Eric Scalise
• “Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing” by Jay Stringer

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “RESET From Addiction (with Irene Rollins)” 
• Old School Food Freedom Podcast by FINDINGbalance, inc.

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• “Breaking Free Recording: How to Escape the Ties of Unwanted Sexual Behaviors”
• “Porn No More Course and Workbook” 

Adultery

Books

• “Healing from Infidelity: The Divorce Busting Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair” by Michele Weiner-Davis
• “Shattered Vows: Hope and Healing for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed” by Debra Laaser

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “Couples Therapy with Ben and Kelsey: Infidelity and Intimacy” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “I’m Addicted to Affairs (with Ben and Kathy Bush)”
• Restoring the Soul Podcast by Michael John Cusick 

Anxiety & Stress

Books

• “Boundaries for Your Soul: How to Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts and Feelings into Your Greatest Allies” by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller
• “Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess: 5 Simple, Scientifically Proven Steps to Reduce Anxiety, Stress, and Toxic Thinking” by Caroline Leaf
• “Feel Better Fast and Make It Last: Unlock Your Brain’s Healing Potential to Overcome Negativity, Anxiety, Anger, Stress, and Trauma” by Daniel Amen
• “Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode–and into a Life of Connection and Joy” by Aundi Kolber
• “Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory” by Deb Dana
• “Polyvagal Practices: Anchoring the Self in Safety” by Deb Dana

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “Anxiety Overload: On-Air Counseling Session with JP Pokluda”
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “Christians, Anxiety, and OCD Behaviors”
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “Debilitating Panic Attacks: On-Air Counseling Session with Jeremy Camp”
• Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess Podcast by Dr. Caroline Leaf 

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• “RESET: From Clutter” 
• “RESET: Your Nervous System” 

Attachment

Books

• “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
• “God Attachment: Why You Believe, Act, and Feel the Way You Do About God” by Tim Clinton and Joshua Straub
• Created for Connection: The “Hold Me Tight” Guide for Christian Couples by Sue Johnson
• “How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage” by Milan and Kay Yerkovich

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “Understanding Attachment Styles” 
• “Attachment Styles: With Krispin Mayfield” 
• Being Known Podcast by Curt Thompson 
• The Place we Find Ourselves Podcast by Adam Young

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• “RESET: Your Attachment Style” 

Betrayal Trauma

Books

• “Shattered Vows: Hope and Healing for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed” by Debra Laaser
• “The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples” by John Gottman
• “Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal” by Sheri Keffer

Podcasts

• Restoring the Soul Podcast by Michael John Cusick 

Brain Health

Books

• “Change Your Brain Every Day: Simple Daily Practices to Strengthen Your Mind, Memory, Moods, Focus, Energy, Habits, and Relationships” by Daniel Amen
• “Switch on Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health” by Caroline Leaf
• “You, Happier: The 7 Neuroscience Secrets of Feeling Good Based on Your Brain Type” by Daniel Amen
• “Your Brain Is Always Listening: Tame the Hidden Dragons That Control Your Happiness, Habits, and Hang-Ups” by Daniel Amen

Podcasts

• Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess Podcast by Dr. Caroline Leaf 

Boundaries

Books

• “Soul Care: *Find Life-Giving Rhythms *Live Restored *Avoid Burnout *Discover Unspeakable Joy” by Debra Fileta
• “Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life” by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
• “Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are” by Lysa TerKeurst
• “Boundaries for Your Soul: How to Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts and Feelings into Your Greatest Allies” by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “I Thought Boundaries Were Selfish- PROTECT with Bianca Olthoff” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “People Pleasers- Candace Cameron Bure” 

Career 

Books

• “Courage and Calling: Embracing Your God-Given Potential” by Gordon Smith 
• “Do What You Are: Discover the Perfect Career For You Through The Secrets of Personality Type” by Barbara Barron
• “Every Good Endeavor: Connecting Your Work to God’s Work” by Timothy Keller
• “The Gift of Being Yourself: The Sacred Call to Self-Discovery” by David Benner

Depression

Books

• “It’s Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self” by Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “No More Pretending: Depression, Suicide, & The Church w/Jarrid Wilson” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “The Hole of Depression: On-Air Counseling with Louie Giglio”

Emotional Health

Books

• “Are You Really OK?: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters” by Debra Fileta
• “Reset: Powerful Habits to Own Your Thoughts, Understand Your Feelings, and Change Your Life” by Debra Fileta
• “Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: It’s Impossible to Be Spiritually Mature, While Remaining Emotionally Immature” by Peter Scazzero
• “People Skills: Your Relationships are Only as Strong as Your Skills” by Debra Fileta

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “Don’t Always Believe Your Feelings- Emotional Health” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “Emotional Health: Don’t Assume You Have It” 
• The Place we Find Ourselves by Adam Young

Enneagram

Books

• “Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage” by Beth and Jeff McCord
• “The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery” by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile
• “The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth” by Christopher Heuertz

Podcasts:

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “Enneagram and Relationships” 
• The Enneagram Journey Podcast by Suzanne Stabile 
• Typology Podcast by Ian Cron 

Family

Books

• “Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children” by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
• “Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out” by Jim Burns
• “Family Discipleship: Leading Your Home through Time, Moments, and Milestones” by Matt Chandler and Adam Griffin
• “Survival Guide to Motherhood: The Parenting Pep Talk Every Christian Mom Needs” by Karen Stubbs
• “The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind” by Dan Siegel
• “Things I Wish I’d Known Before My Child Became a Teenager” by Gary Chapman

Podcasts

• FamilyLife Today Podcast by FamilyLife Network 
• FamilyLife Blended Podcast by FamilyLife Network 
• Focus on Parenting Podcast by Focus on the Family 

Websites

• Family Life
• Focus on the Family

Forgiveness

Books

• “The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World” by Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu
• “Forgive: Why Should I and How Can I?” by Timothy Keller
• “Forgiving Forward: Unleashing the Forgiveness Revolution” by Bruce Hebel
• “Forgiving and Reconciling: Bridges to Wholeness and Hope” by Everett Worthington
• “Forgiving What You Can’t Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That’s Beautiful Again” by Lysa TerKeurst
• “Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better” by Brandt Hansen

Grief/Loss/Suffering

Books

• “A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss” by Jerry Sittser
• “Hope Heals: A True Story of Overwhelming Loss and an Overcoming Love” by Katherine Wolf
• “The Deepest Place: Suffering and the Formation of Hope” by Curt Thompson
• “Through the Eyes of a Lion: Facing Impossible Pain, Finding Incredible Power” by Levi Lusko and Steven Furtick
• “Treasures in the Dark: 90 Reflections on Finding Bright Hope Hidden in the Hurting” by Katherine Wolf
• “Walking with God through Pain and Suffering” by Timothy Keller

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Rejection, Loss, and Abandonment: On-Air Counseling Session with Christine Caine” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “RESET from Grief (an on-air session with Sabrina” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Savoring Through Suffering” with Ann Voskamp
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Trapped in Grief: On-Air Counseling with Levi Lusko” 

Identity 

Books

• “The Gift of Being Yourself: The Sacred Call to Self-Discovery” by David Benner
• “The Perfect You: A Blueprint for Identity” by Caroline Leaf
• “The Soul of Shame: Retelling the Stories We Believe About Ourselves” by Curt Thompson
• “Living Fearless: Exchanging the Lies of the World for the Liberating Truth of God” by Jamie Winship

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• “RESET: Your Inner Critic” 

Leadership Issues

Books

• “Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts” by Brene Brown
• “Rare Leadership: 4 Uncommon Habits For Increasing Trust, Joy, and Engagement in the People You Lead” by Marcus Warner and Jim Wilder
• “The Emotionally Healthy Leader: How Transforming Your Inner Life Will Deeply Transform Your Church, Team, and the World” by Peter Scazzero 
• “The Deeply Formed Life: Five Transformative Values to Root Us in the Way of Jesus” by Rich Vollodas

Podcasts

• Christine Caine’s Life & Leadership Podcast by Christine Caine and Propel Women
• Andy Stanley Leadership Podcast by Andy Stanley

Life Transitions

Books

• “The Art of Overcoming: Letting God Turn Your Endings into Beginnings” Tim Timberlake

Marriage Conflict

Books

• “Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection” by Julie Schwartz Gottman and John Gottman

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “90% of Couples who got a Divorce Had This One Issue” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast by Debra Fileta – “Biggest Mistakes Couples Make in Conflict” 
• Small Things Often Podcast by the Gottman Institute 

Marriage Strengthening

Books

• “Choosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start with We>Me”  by Debra Fileta
• “Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship” by Debra Fileta
• “Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life” by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta
• Created for Connection: The “Hold Me Tight” Guide for Christian Couples by Sue Johnson
• “The Mingling of Souls: God’s Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption” by Matt Chandler
• “Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?” by Gary Thomas
• “The Marriage Devotional: 52 Days to Strengthen the Soul of Your Marriage” by Levi and Jennie Lusk
• “The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God” by Timothy Keller
• “Reconnected: Moving from Roommates to Soulmates in Marriage” by Greg and Erin Smalley
• “The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself” by Ron and Nan Deal
• “Rebuilding a Marriage Better Than New: Healing the Broken Places, Resolving Unmet Expectations, Moving Your Relationship Forward” by Cindy Beall
• “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman and Nan Silver

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Communication in Marriage: How to Stop the Drift” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Practical Oneness in Marriage: The Reality of Two Becoming One” 
• Small Things Often Podcast by the Gottman Institute 

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• “Choosing Marriage Couples’ Workbook” 

Pre-Marital

Books

• “Choosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start with We>Me”  by Debra Fileta
• “The Mingling of Souls: God’s Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption” by Matt Chandler
• “The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God” by Timothy Keller

Podcasts

• The Heart of Dating Podcast by Kait and JJ Tomlin

Porn

Books

• “Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction” by Mark Laaser
• “Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy” by Juli Slattery and Joy Skarka 
• “Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relational Recovery” by Patrick Carnes
• “Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction” by Patrick Carnes 
• “Surfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle” by Michael John Cusick
• “Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing” by Jay Stringer
• “Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction” by Gary Wilson
  
• “Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain” by William Struthers
• “Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn” by Aaron Zint

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Breaking Free From Porn” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast –  “RESET from Porn (a conversation with Matt and Sathiya)” 
• Old School Food Freedom Podcast  – “Finding Freedom from P*ornography & S3xual Shame, Part 1”
• Old School Food Freedom Podcast  – “Finding Freedom from P*ornography & S3xual Shame, Part 2” 
• Restoring the Soul Podcast by Michael John Cusick 

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• “Breaking Free Recording: How to Escape the Ties of Unwanted Sexual Behaviors” 
• “Porn No More Course and Workbook” 

Sexuality

Books

• “Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction” by Mark Laaser
• “The Mingling of Souls: God’s Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption” by Matt Chandler
• “Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing” by Jay Stringer

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Sex Drive & the Single Life: Controlling Your Lust Before it Controls You” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “How Far is Too Far? Physical Touch Before Marriage” 
• Theology in the Raw with Preston Sprinkle Podcast by Preston Sprinkle

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• “Breaking Free Recording: How to Escape the Ties of Unwanted Sexual Behaviors” 
• “Sex and the Single Life: What to do With Desires While You Wait” 

Singleness and Dating 

Books

• “True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life” by Debra Fileta
• “Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships” by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
• “How to Get a Date Worth Keeping” by Henry Cloud
• “The Sacred Search: What if It’s Not about Who You Marry, but Why?” Gary Thomas

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Compatibility- How to Know if You’re a Good Match” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “How Far is Too Far? Physical Touch Before Marriage”
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Online Dating Tips: Up Your Odds of Finding a Good Match” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Sex Drive & the Single Life: Controlling Your Lust Before it Controls You” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Break Up Advice: 10 Ways to Heal After a Break Up”
• The Heart of Dating Podcast by Kait and JJ Tomlin

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• “10 Dating Deal Breakers”
• “10 Important Qualities to Look for in a Dating Relationship”
• “10 Steps to Becoming Marriage Material”
• “21 Days to Pray for Your Love Life Program”
• “21 Days to Jump Start Your Love Life Program”
• “Breaking Free From the Lies of Singleness Program”
• “Choosing Marriage Singles’ Workbook”
• “How to Actually Get a Date”
• “How to Live Life to the FULLEST While Single”
• “The Do’s and Don’ts of Online Dating: A 15 Day Online Dating Course”
• “Where Am I Most Likely to Meet My Spouse”
• “YADA Assessment: Get to Know Yourself” 

Spirituality 

Books

• “Anatomy of the Soul: Surprising Connections between Neuroscience and Spiritual Practices That Can Transform Your Life and Relationships” by Curt Thompson
• “Invitation to a Journey: A Road Map for Spiritual Formation” by Robert Mulholland
• “Practicing the Way: Be with Jesus. Become like him. Do as he did.” by John Mark Comer
• “Sacred Pathways: Discover Your Soul’s Path to God” by Gary Thomas
• “The Dark Night of the Soul: A Deep Dive into the Shadow Side of Spirituality, Embracing Disorientation, Doubt, and Despair for Authentic Spiritual Growth and Wholeness” by Gerald May 
• “The Other Half of Church: Christian Community, Brain Science, and Overcoming Spiritual Stagnation” by Jim Wilder and Michel Hendricks
• “When the Church Harms God’s People: Becoming Faith Communities That Resist Abuse, Pursue Truth, and Care for the Wounded” by Diane Langberg 
• “When Narcissism Comes to Church: Healing Your Community From Emotional and Spiritual Abuse” by Chuck DeGroat
• “With: Reimagining the Way You Relate to God” by Skye Jethani

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast  – “RESET Your View of God (with Alex Seely)” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast  – “Spiritual Health: Taking Our Hurts Out on God” 
• NeuroFaith with Curt Thompson Podcast by Curt Thompson

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• “RESET: From Church Hurt” 

Soul Care/Burnout

Books

• “Soul Care: *Find Life-Giving Rhythms *Live Restored *Avoid Burnout *Discover Unspeakable Joy” by Debra Fileta
• “Leaving Egypt: Finding God in the Wilderness Places” by Chuck DeGroat
• “Resilient: Restoring Your Weary Soul in These Turbulent Times” by John Elderedge
• “The Rest of God: Restoring Your Soul by Restoring Sabbath” by Mark Buchanan
• “The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: How to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the Modern World” by John Mark Comer

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Avoiding Burn in Ministry with Tim Timberlake” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Why Am I Always So Burnt Out?”  Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Trauma

Books

• “​​Healing What’s Within: Coming Home to Yourself—and to God—When You’re Wounded, Weary, and Wandering” by Chuck DeGroat
• “Restoring the Shattered Self: A Christian Counselor’s Guide to Complex Trauma” by Heather Davediuk Gingrich
• “Strong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things–and Experience True Flourishing” by Aundi Kolber
• “Suffering and the Heart of God: How Trauma Destroys and Christ Restores” by Diane Langberg
• “The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma” by Bessel van der Kolk
• “The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole (Healing Complex PTSD)” by Arielle Schwartz
• “No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness With the Internal Family Systems Model” by Richard C. Schwartz
• “Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors” by Janina Fisher

Podcasts

• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Overcoming Childhood Trauma: On-Air Counseling with Lisa Bevere” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast –“Rebuilding After Trauma: On-Air Counseling with Jonathan Pitts” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “RESET from Trauma (with Tony Collier)” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Signs You Need to Deal with Your Trauma” 
• Talk to Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast – “Why Do Some Traumas Take Longer to Heal Than Others”
• The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast by Adam Young

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