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Meet Debra

Debra Fileta m.a., lpc

Debra Fileta m.a., lpc

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written nine books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Episode 148: Can We Heal After Separation? (Couples Therapy with Meagan and Ryan)
Episode 147: 3 Conflict Hacks Every Couple Should Know! (Couples Therapy with Levi and Sabrina)
Episode 146: Stop Putting Kids Before Marriage (Couples Therapy with Letty and Lenny)
Episode 145: Is this Boundaries or Control? (Couples Therapy with Curt and Lindsey)
Episode 144: Singles Series: Redefining Spiritual Leadership (Meet Brittany)
Episode 143: Singles Series: I’m in a YES Season (Meet Paaton)
Episode 142: Singles Series: In Vegas But Not of Vegas (Meet Rob)
Episode 141: Singles Series: The “Not My Husband” List (Meet Leah)
Episode 140: Singles Series: From Heartbreak to Healing (Meet Malachi)
Episode 139: Singles Series: I Love My People (Meet Lauren)
Episode 138: Singles Series - Embracing Hard Conversations (Meet Devon)
Episode 137: Singles series - I’m Learning Myself (Meet Amanda)
Episode 136: Singles Series - Faith Over Everything (Meet Pedro)
Episode 135: Is This Burnout or Menopause?
Episode 134: My Parents Show No Interest In Me
Episode 133: I Don’t Know What’s Next For Me
Episode 132: Facing My Own Prison (with Jermaine Wilson)
Episode 131: My Adult Child Went No Contact
Episode 130: I Have Major Anger Issues
Episode 129: Vulnerability Means You Go First (With Tim Ross)
Episode 128: Healing My Mother Wounds (with Kirby Kelly)
Episode 127: Looking for Love in the Wrong Places (with Christian Bevere)
Episode 126: Stress of the Sandwich Generation (with Joel Muddamalle)
Episode 125: My Spouse Is Addicted to Their Phone
Episode 124: When a Friendship Ends Without Warning (with Alex Seeley)
Episode 123: People Skills Don't Come Naturally To Me (with Kendall Mariah)
Episode 122: How Do I Deal with Difficult or Toxic People? (with Gary Thomas)
Episode 121: I keep getting hurt by friends
Episode 120: Dealing with Church Trauma
Episode 119: How Do I Feel Secure Standing Alone?
Episode 118: Do I Have Friendship Triggers?
Episode 117: I’m Done Being Passive
Episode 116: How do I trust again?
Episode 115: Dealing with Wounds of Friendship Betrayal
Episode 114: No One Knew How Bad My Anxiety Was (with Shawn Johnson)
Episode 113: I'm a Recovering People Pleaser (with Judah Smith)
Episode 112: I Feel Offended by God (with Alexandra Hoover)
Episode 111: Giving Too Much in a Relationship (with Lysa Terkeurst)
Episode 110: I Just Want To Be Accepted (with Max Lucado)
Episode 109: I Thought Boundaries Were Selfish (with Bianca Olthoff)
Episode 108: Jesus Saved Me From Porn (with Joshua Broome)
Episode 107: Letting Go of Self-Sufficiency (with Demi Leigh Tebow)
Episode 106: Childhood Wounds: On-Air Counseling Session (with Matt Chandler)
Episode 105: Overcoming People Pleasing (with Candace Cameron Bure)
Episode 104: My Radical Transformation From Darkness (with Cristina Baker)
Episode 103: Healing from Abuse with Ann Beiler (Auntie Anne)
Episode 102: How To Parent A Perfectionist Child
Episode 101: What To Do When My Spouse Isn’t Parenting Well
Episode 100: Does My Son Play Too Many Video Games?
Episode 99: How Do I Deal With My Kid's Big Emotions?
Episode 98: Raising Kids Who Love Jesus (with Jeremy and Adie Camp)
Episode 97: Emotionally Healthy Families – A Conversation with my Daughter Ella!
Episode 96: Parenting Advice For Every Age and Stage (with Levi and Jennie Lusko)
Episode 95: No Topic is Off Limits (with Gabe & Rebekah Lyons)
Episode 94: How Parenting Makes You Better (with Ben & Kirsten Watson)
Episode 93: Tips to Connect With Your Kids (with Chris and Tina Reed)
Episode 92: When Life is Tough (with Tim Timberlake)
Episode 91: How I Lost Over 200lbs (with Leah Hope Health)
Episode 90: How Do I Heal My Mother Wounds? (With Larinda)
Episode 89: We're Struggling with Physical Boundaries in Dating (With Bri)
Episode 88: What if my trauma DIDN’T affect me? (with Sandy)
Episode 87: I’m Dating But Not Feeling It (with Allison)
Episode 86:How Do I Interact with My Emotionally Unavailable Mother? (with Melissa)
Episode 85: Freedom from Porn and Lust (with Mason)
Episode 84: Healing after Divorce with Toni Collier
Episode 83: Mid-Life Crisis: On-Air Counseling with Levi Lusko
Episode 82: The Emotionally Disconnected Marriage WITH Gabe Rebekah Lyons
Episode 81: I'M A RECOVERING ALCOHOLIC WITH IAN CRON
Episode 80: On-Air Counseling Session with Jinger Dugger Vuolo
Episode 79: I’m Struggling with My Self-Worth and Inner Critic
Episode 78: I Have a Hard Time Saying No
Episode 77: It’s Not All On Me (with Haven Weits)
Episode 76: Am I Emotionally Healthy?
Episode 75: I Don’t Know How To Rest
Episode 74: Forgiving The Unforgivable (with Davey Blackburn)
Episode 73: I Have Anger Issues
Episode 72: This is Harder Than I Thought It Would Be (with Stephanie May Wilson)
Episode 71: When is it Time to Take Medication for Depression & Anxiety?
Episode 70: When “Honoring Your Father and Mother” Feels Hard
Episode 69: I Say Yes When I Should Say No
Episode 68: What Do I Do With These Hard Emotions? (with Annie Downs)
Episode 67: Attracted To Emotionally Unavailable Men
Episode 66: Healing From a Relationship I Made Up in My Mind
Episode 65: Second Guessing the Break Up
Episode 64: Struggling with Singleness (with Anthony O’Neal)
Episode 63: She Keeps Triggering Me
Episode 62: We’re In a Stressful Season (with Jimmy & Irene Rollins)
Episode 61: Why Do We Keep Having the SAME Fight?
Episode 60: Couples Therapy - Newlywed Struggles (with Kait & JJ Tomlin)
Episode 59: Reset from Body Shame
Episode 58: Reset from Too Much Screen Time
Episode 57: Reset from Unhealthy Relationships
Episode 56: Reset from Worst Case Scenario Thinking
Episode 55: Baggage in Our Marriage (with Dave & Ann Wilson)
Episode 54: Why Can’t I Ask For What I Need?
Episode 53: Do I Have Dad Wounds? (with Jonathan Pokluda)
Episode 52: Am I Healed Enough To Date?
Episode 51: Rejection Wounds (with Alexandra Hoover)
Episode 50: Trusting God vs. Taking Control
Episode 49: Avoiding Burnout in Ministry (with Tim Timberlake)
Episode 48: Why do I feel so guilty when I rest?
Episode 47: Tune In
Episode 46: People Pleasers (with Candace Cameron Bure)
Episode 45: How to Savor Life
Episode 44: Savoring Through Suffering (with Ann Voskamp)
Episode 43: The Theology of SELF-CARE (with Joel Muddamalle)
Episode 42: I’m Awful at Boundaries in Ministry
Episode 41: I Thought Boundaries Were Selfish – PROTECT (with Bianca Olthoff)
Episode 40: Do I Even Need Friends?
Episode 39: I Had Followers but Not Friends – CONNECT (with Carlos Whitaker)
Episode 38: Soul Care - Special Reading with Debra Fileta
Episode 37: Can You Take Caring For Your Body Too Far?
Episode 36: Why I Neglected My Body (with Jasmine Mays)
Episode 35: Why Am I Always So Burnt Out?
Episode 34: Letting Go of Self-Sufficiency (with Demi-Leigh Tebow)
Episode 33: Leaving the Adult Industry (with Brittni De La Mora)
Episode 32: How Do I Find Community In A New Place?
Episode 31: When Ministry is REALLY Hard (with Matt Brown)
Episode 30: Dealing with Heartbreak After Heartbreak (with Jeanine Amapola Ward)
Episode 29: I Need Help with Dating Decisions!
Episode 28: Rejection Wounds (with Alexandra Hoover)
Episode 27: When You Feel Like You Don’t Fit In (with Brian Tome)
Episode 26: How Do You Date After Loss?
Episode 25: Baggage in Our Marriage (with Dave & Ann Wilson)
Episode 24: Why Can’t I Ask For What I Need?
Episode 23: Do I Have Dad Wounds? (with Jonathan Pokluda)
Episode 22: When Old Trauma Spills Into New Relationships
Episode 21: When There Seems To Be No Hope (with Katherine Wolf)
Episode 20: Trusting God vs. Taking Control
Episode 19: Struggling With Singleness: A Conversation with Mandisa
Episode 18: Single With Married Friends & Struggling
Episode 17: Why Do Some Traumas Take Longer To Heal Than Others?
Episode 16: Am I Healed Enough To Date?
Episode 15: I’m An Emotional Over-Reactor
Episode 14: How to Have Emotional Safety in Marriage
Episode 13: Anxiety in Dating
Episode 12: Am I Over My Divorce?
Episode 11: My Unhealthy Marriage
Episode 10: I Have Trust Issues (with Amanda and Tim)
Episode 09: I’m Addicted to Affairs (with Tim and Kathy Bush)
Episode 08: Is It Boundaries? Or Is It Control? (with Cristy and Nick)
Episode 07: Porn Problems (with Dave & Ashley Willis)
Episode 06: I Blame Myself (with Faith Eury Cho)
Episode 05: Admitting I Needed Help (with Havilah Cunningham)
Episode 04: Enmeshed with My Unhealthy Mother (with Anh Lin)
Episode 03: From Porn Star to Child of God (with Joshua Broome)
Episode 02: Dealing with the Pressure (with Madison Prewett Troutt)
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